30 Day Challenge - Day 18: Someone You Met Randomly That Impacted Your Life

Once again, Blogger's scheduling feature decided not to work with me.  I'm going to report this and see if next week goes a little better.  Sorry about the delay!

Now, some of my lovely readers have different religious and political views.  That's to be expected, since I have around 60 GFC followers, 20 Networked Blogs followers, and 15 email subscribers - plus 36 Facebook likes.  I personally believe that homosexuality is sinful and unbiblical.  However, I believe that we should "love the sinner and hate the sin."
Time for today's story.  Back when I lived in Okinawa, I went to the library frequently - at least once a week - and checked out literally as many books as I could carry.  One day I needed a nonfiction book report, so I decided to check out the writing how-to books.  This particular shelf was on one side of the little tables and chairs spread through the library, and a girl was there with her mother writing a research paper at the table.  She wore a black, long sleeved, button-down shirt and black pants.  (It was spring on a tropical island, people. I started sweating just looking at her.)  Her hair was medium-long, straight, and brown.

She and her mother were apparently big bookworms and they started up a conversation with me - turns out the girl's name was Bug.  When they found out what I was doing, they started offering suggestions.  (I was thoroughly impressed, because some of their favorites were things I considered a little too deep/thick for me, and I was already beyond the average reading capacity of my age.)

It was cool, and I really liked them.  I didn't think anything of it until later, hanging with some friends of mine, I told them about Bug and her mom.  Apparently, two of my friends had gone to school with her at the last place they lived.  They told me she was a lesbian and they seemed to have an odd opinion of her.  I was surprised but still thought Bug was nice.

Actually, I saw Bug one more time.  Turns out she was the next-door neighbor of a family from my church - she was cleaning her family's van when I was babysitting.  We discussed out mutual disgust of spiders, and that was the last time I saw her.

Bug taught me the real meaning behind the phrase "Love the sinner, hate the sin." Because I met a lesbian and didn't even know she was one - because I met a girl I thought was cool and would be a nice friend - I learned a lesson.  I've always known that those people that commit the "big sins" are real people with dreams, hurts, favorite colors, and phobias.  But not until I met a lesbian with a love of books and a disgust of spiders did that truth have an affect on me personally.


  1. This is an interesting story, and I like hearing about other people's point of view on these sort of topics. I am a Christian as well, but I don't have any problem with the LGBT community, in fact, I welcome them! I think love is love, no matter whom it's between (well..not like pedophiles, but that's different).

    I think "love the sinner, hate the sin" is something that can be argued, because if you love someone who has sinned, and it was a major sin, such as getting in a car accident and killing someone (by accident), then you love that person, but you don't love their past, and that's not loving all of that person. To love the sinner, you have to love every part of the sinner, including the sin. You can't just love parts of people, well not really.

    I'm glad you had an experience with someone of the LGBT community, and I'm glad that you know have a different view on the topic, because, yes, people who are lesbians or gays have personalities, and they're just like us. They have hopes and dreams for the future, they want to grow up and have a family, even if they can't give that child one mother and one father, they'll love that child just as much as any other couple.

    I'm sorry if that seemed a bit harsh, but one of my pet peeves are people who are ignorant about a stereotype and they assume everything about that stereotype. I know I probably snapped at you in that, and I don't mean to be mean, I'm glad you have a different view on the situation. I don't want you to live with blinders on, Emily Rachelle. I want you to be open to loving everyone, just as God says, "love your neighbor as yourself." (Leviticus 19:18)


  2. Hi Lydia! Thanks for sharing your opinion.

    As to the "love is love" philosophy, I'll be honest with you: based on my life thoughts and opinions, I would normally agree with you. But the Bible has nothing good and plenty bad to say about homosexuality. As a Christian who is to emulate Christ, I simply can't support something God says so much against.

    I understand where you're coming from as to my "love the sinner, hate the sin" idea; but I think you and I are defining 'sin' differently. Using your example of killing someone in a car accident, I don't believe that's a sin. After all, it was an accident. If the driver was drunk or on drugs or driving without a license, etc, then I believe that was a sin, and the other person's death was part of the natural consequences - but it wasn't the actual sin. Does that make sense? I define sin as anything that displeases God or that God hates.
    However, as most people know, God is love and He loves every single person who was ever conceived. Since God is holy, He must hate sin. Since God is love, He loves everyone. So if God can love all sinners while hating sin, then I fully believe that I am capable of that as well.

    I totally agree with you on the fact that homosexuals are individuals; I just believe they are misled and sinful individuals. (So is every single person on earth.)

    I don't feel like you were snapping, Lydia. :) You were gracefully but truthfully sharing your views on the matter. However, I don't feel like I'm living with blinders on - quite the opposite. This world is full of strife and conflict and different opinions. That doesn't mean that I know everything or am always right; but when I base my beliefs on the Bible and can back them up with Scriptures, then I hold the same view as God and cannot be wrong, as God is never wrong.

  3. I know there quite a few times where God speaks negatively of homosexuality, but society plays a major role in everyone's opinions today. I'm not trying to say that you have to agree with everything that society says, but I don't think you should disregard the modern world. Being with someone of the same gender makes some people very happy, and I have trouble disagreeing with something that makes someone happy (except pedophilia, but like I said, that's a different story).

    I think killing someone is a sin regardless of it being an accident or not. If someone got mad at their friend and pushed them, and they hit their head against a brick wall, and they died, I think that would be a sin. Going too fast and getting in a car crash is the same thing. You didn't set out to kill anyone, but you did, and that's a sin.
    Even though God hates sin, and loves everyone, that doesn't mean we can. I know that isn't a very nice thing to say, but we can't do everything God does. God created the earth, and we can't. God was perfect (when he was in human form), and we aren't. Even though God can do something, it doesn't mean we can. Like I said, I know that sounds pretty mean, but we can only strive to do what God does. We can't just want to be like God, and then be like Him.

    I think that everyone on earth is sinful, yes, and I think that we are all mislead. We're programmed by modern society to love the new smartphone, want those new shoes, and beg our parents to let us stay out for just one more hour. To say that homosexuals are mislead is incorrect, because we all are mislead. Maybe, in your opinion, you can say that they are mislead on a different road, but I don't believe that.

    Thanks, just let me know if any of my words are rude or snappy, because I'm one of those people who stand up for what they believe in, and fight for it.
    When I said that I didn't want you to live with blinders on, I meant that I didn't want you to live with this one view on this one group of people. Someone with blinders on to private school kids would say that we're all stuck up, snobby, rich brats who get whatever they want, when in fact, most of us are the opposite. I don't have a car, I live in the house my grandmother grew up in, I don't have all the cool stuff everyone else does.

    I base my beliefs on what God wants, as well as what feels right for me. I can't go against some of my personal beliefs, because they've been grounded in me through my experiences in this world. When I find something that isn't "right" according to scripture, I have to find a place within myself to figure it out. This is one thing that I've thought about a lot, and in my opinion is right.

    Even if people have problems with other people, they shouldn't actively tell people they're living their lives wrong, they just need to go about their own way. If you are trying to witness to someone, the time will come, but I don't think telling people what they're doing is wrong is polite, or what God would've wanted.
    I'm not saying you're doing this at all, I just want to make sure you know that.

    When all else fails, just remember that "to each his own."

  4. Hey Lydia ~ Just wanted to say that I have neither forgotten nor ignored you. To be entirely transparent, your second comment was a little too much for the limits on my knowledge of theology, so I asked my youth pastor to read the post and our discussion and talk it over with me. He'll be getting back to me soon and I can answer your comment openly and honestly.
    I just don't want you to feel that I'm ignoring or, worse, shrugging off your thoughts.

  5. Lydia~

    “Love is love…except pedophiles” – Unfortunately, people don’t realize that WE don’t define love – God does. What the world thinks is true love has gotten us in a lot of trouble through the years; that's why the divorce rate is at an all-time high and cohabitation is more prevalent today than ever before.

    You defined killing someone through a car accident as being a sin – this is a misguided thought process and philosophy of life. Why? Because sin is defined as an act that goes against the will of God and His divine law. So is killing a sin? Yes, when premeditated and acted out in hate, anger and spite. When it’s an accident? No.

    “…few times where God speaks negatively about homosexuality, but society plays a major role in everyone’s opinions today.” – And THIS is our problem as a nation and world. When our opinions and morals are being defined by society and Hollywood, we are in trouble!

    You sink your own ship with this one – “Being with someone of the same gender makes some people very happy, and I have trouble disagreeing with something that makes someone happy (except pedophilia, but like I said, that’s a different story).” - You're trying to define what can and should make people happy. Why do you disagree with pedophilia? Because in your mind it is wicked – and God says so too. Why then don’t you think homosexuality is wicked? Because society has taught you that happiness is more important than holiness. God disagrees! You're trying to defend the choice of homosexuality as pure love and label pedophilia as wicked. It just doesn't work.

    I don't want to come across as rude or thoughtless, but I believe that you have been led away from God's truth by society - something that's happened to quite a few people in today's world.


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